Santa Barbara Divorce Attorney & Family Law Lawyer

QUESTIONS? CALL US.

(805) 879-7523

Strategies for Navigating COVID-19 as a Single Parent

Sep 18, 2020 | Feel Good Friday

The COVID-19 crisis is tough on all families. But for single parents, having to suddenly manage kids whose schools and playgrounds are closed and whose caregivers can no longer come to work can be especially overwhelming. To help support single parents during this difficult time, we’ve put together some strategies for managing stress when you are at this alone. In particular, this Feel Good Friday focuses on tips for reaching out to find help (which is crucial to your mental health), balancing work and time with the kids (which can feel impossible) and resources available for single parents.

Find your village

If ever there were a time to ask for help, now is that time. And it’s important to model for your child that when you need help, you ask for it. When you can’t rely on your usual support network, you might:

  • Reach out to your child’s teacher or school psychologist or counselor, or to your own therapist.
  • Schedule regular FaceTime dates with grandparents or your child’s favorite babysitter or the other parent if they’re in the picture. Just twenty minutes of virtual childcare may give you the time you need to take a shower or start a grocery delivery list.
  • Have virtual meals with friends who live in other parts of the country and who are at home with their kids.

Make a plan for juggling work and child care

Working from home is hard and homeschooling is hard, so putting them together can seem impossible. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the balancing act, try these strategies:

  • Use visual aids and timers to let your child know when you’re available and when you need to work. For young kids, try this out by setting up an activity they can do relatively independently. Then use a time or visual “stop lights” (clip a green piece of paper to the door when you’re available, and a red one when you’re not) to teach kids about boundaries.
  • Speak to your employer if you are working from home. Depending on your situation, you can talk to your employer about taking some family medical leave. Or have a conversation about how to arrange flex time or how to consolidate work tasks during times that are going to align with what your child needs.

Resources for single parents

  • Stand For Children, a non-profit education advocacy organization offering help to families during COVID-19.
  • Benefits.gov, shares federal unemployment benefits and child care options.

Subscribe to Our Blog


 

How Does Santa Barbara, California Determine Child Custody?

Child custody is one of the more delicate areas of family law practice, and it can be extremely stressful for the children involved. Fortunately, the state courts in California prioritize the welfare of the child over either parent’s wishes, meaning that the influence...

Are Dating Violence and Domestic Violence the Same Thing?

It’s not always easy to tell when a relationship is unhealthy or abusive. Many people don’t even realize they’re in an abusive relationship until it’s too late. Domestic violence and dating violence are two types of abuse that can occur in any relationship, whether...

Is Divorce Mediation Successful?

No one wants to face the prospect of a divorce, but unfortunately, sometimes it’s necessary and the best resolution for all parties involved. However, some couples feel there is hope for their relationship if they can sit down and hash contentious issues out with the...

Practice the Pause

If you are co-parenting during or after a divorce, practicing "the pause" can help you stay out of trouble and maintain a good co-parenting relationship with the other parent. Too many times parents quarrel unnecessarily or make demands without thinking it through. We...

Divorce, Marital Duties, and Digital Assets

By Bennett Reichard, Law Clerk In recent years there has been a dramatic increase in the usage and prevalence of digital assets such as cryptocurrency and non-fungible tokens (“NFT”).  A forecast, created by research firm Insider Intelligence, found that by the end of...

Why Do Couples Go to Divorce Mediation?

When a couple is facing divorce in California, they have options beyond the court system. Divorce mediation is a choice many couples seek to help alleviate the stress of the divorce. In this situation, the couple sits down with a lawyer, who is a neutral party. In...

What Is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce is common; in fact, half of all marriages end with the couple divorcing. If you are facing a divorce, it’s important to understand the process and all your potential options. Contrary to popular belief, divorces do not all proceed the same way. There are...

Divorce, Mediation and Co-Parenting

Written by Jennifer E. Drury, Drury Pullen, A Professional Law Corporation March 11, 2022 If you have children, co-parenting starts the day you decide the marriage is over. Even the most amicable divorces need a plan for future co-parenting. Putting your children's...

Tips to Manage Seasonal Anxiety During COVID-19

New recommendations, mask mandates, and restrictions due to the delta variant may find a way to curb your enthusiasm as we transition into the chillier and darker months ahead. Here a few tools experts recommend to help us deal with it all. 1. Reframe how you think of...