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How to Help Children During Tough Transitions

Nov 6, 2020 | Feel Good Friday

Humans are creatures of habit. Even when change is welcome, it is known to take a toll on our energy levels. While difficulty with change can manifest in a number of ways depending on the child and the setting, we hope these tips will help pave the way for more successful transitions.

1. Build routines

If a child doesn’t like to transition because they value consistency and structure, then start by bringing in consistency and structure into the transition process itself.

2. Summarize the day for them

Along with having a routine, let the child know what their day is going to look like. Having a structure in place can be reassuring and helpful – even for older kids.

3. Create a playlist

For younger kids in particular, songs can be especially effective tools to help implement routines and ease transitions. The “clean up” song can be heard in preschools throughout the country for good reason, but there are countless other songs to be found (and made up!) to suit a variety of situations from tying shoes to brushing teeth.

4. Acknowledge the good

Recognize when things are going well and let the child know. Be specific in your praises and emphasize your support. With the right support, children can learn to change gears without whining and tantrums.

The attorneys at Drury Pullen, A Professional Law Corporation are available to assist you with your family law needs during these challenging times.  Feel free to call us 24/7 at (805) 879-7523 and leave a message if you do not reach a live person.  Calls will be returned as they are received.  You are also welcome to contact us via the Contact Us page on our website.  We remain available to our clients and community with remote services such as court filings, negotiations, mediation and emergency services.  Please follow us on Instagram @CaliforniaDivorce and come back to this blog for more information

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